Stuffing children with a variety of lessons and courses, does not automatically guarantee the child's so smart. What happened to the contrary, our children frustrated, even to suicide as conducted Lysher Loh Jia Hui, 10-year-old elementary school student.
"PR anymore? Do dong Ma, I do not you have a lot of homework from school," wailed the mother of Joshua to the tutor. Honestly she objected. Within a week the new Joshua's 10 years of age must follow the four kinds of tutoring. Especially now in school there was an additional hour lesson, so she so did not have time to play. Consequently, on les place he so often at odds with his friend. So sensitive, just a little seduced straight upset. At school, decreased attention to the teaching process and often forget to make housework (PR).
By reason of love, what do parents to their children succeed. Who the hell are parents who do not want their children to be the best in school and have a bright future? So, it's no wonder that many parents forcing children to follow the various lessons and activities. However, if you do not watch out, this could actually backfire.
Boomerang had a chance to hit behind parents Lysher Loh Jia Hui effect of act itself. This is a tragic story Lysher befall y ang
Fourth grade elementary school student 10-year-old Singaporean, the end of his life with a free fall from an apartment on the fifth level. He was found lying dead by wearing T-shirts - shorts school uniform. Smart girls who belong at the school was devastated when got the third rank.
Haus affection
"The decision to commit suicide by children is actually a form of statement that they really need help.
Consider the diary was dated May 1, 2001 made by the deceased Lysher,
"Hurray! This day laborers! There is no school! And do you know what that means? There's no homework! I am very happy! Although missed also on the teachers and friends, I really enjoy this school holidays, because no school . Actually not so. I think the main reason is so my parents do not work, and they were at home with me! We can have fun, go out together! Is not this really great? "
From his writings, it appears Lysher feel lonely and hungry for affection and warmth from their parents.
Lysher signs that severe stress can actually be detected by their parents. Before his departure, he often complained to his father, that he had a PR. Every day he had to do three homework.
Approximately 25 minutes prior to death were picked up, he had asked the housekeeper about whether there is any possibility he could be skipped school that day.
With the times, students in primary schools participating more and more additional courses outside of their formal education. The children were told their parents to English classes, painting, or learning the piano. While sitting on a bench high school also must take additional courses to prepare for college entrance exams.
Yet they still need to play. Their brains can not be burdened by the weight of things. Consequently, the number of children who committed suicide due to pressures were getting higher. They jumped from the school building or hang themselves. Failed to establish a relationship with another friend of any kind can be a major factor of suicide. It is said that the suicide rate increased in adulthood. Cause: unemployment.
When the passion starts to decrease your child's learning, difficulty concentrating, frequent illness, etc., there is a possibility he was suffering from depression study. Especially if your child frequently mention suicidal or has been caught once attempted suicide, it must be extra vigilant!
It's a sign your child needs professional help. What should be done by parents to treat depression child's learning? Perhaps the following tips can help.
Improving emotional intelligence
"To the children are taught how to think realistically and optimistically, that sometimes the value in school can rise or fall, like health, if not maintained, could fall.
Ways to teach realistic and optimistic thinking in children is membekalinya with emotional intelligence (EQ, Emotional Quotient) early. So that children do not have behavioral problems in adult life.
Research Carroll Izard, Ph.D. from the University of Delaware in Newark shows, children are difficult to understand their feelings and others, will be vulnerable to behavioral problems and learning at higher age. An easy way to teach emotional intelligence such as:
* Card emotion
Homemade card with a picture showing facial expressions different that can help children recognize the various feelings such as anger or surprise. Ask your child, when he never felt the same.
* Heartline
You must be ready to open up when the kids want to talk about their school. You should be able to empathize with the problem. If he does not like telling stories, frequently asked every he came home from school. "What was in school?", "There's the naughty to you?", "Kok, pouting about?", And others.
When less effective, fishing child to tell stories. The trick, tell your childhood experiences in school, either pleasant or bad. Maybe that would stimulate children to tell stories.
* Read a fairy tale or a book together
Find the books that focus on various kinds of feelings, such as Chicken Soup for the Kid's Soul. Choose the tales that provide a moral message. From the stories that children will know that there are many people who also have problems at school or at home. In addition, they taburilah with moral messages and life advice to improve his moral intelligence.
* Playing a role or drama
Exercise plays emotional events with children. Mi For example, malingering, get a bad test score, or other. Involve all relatives and friends. Possibly, this exercise can be useful if children have to follow the drama performances at schools or at events in the housing 17 Agust.
* Involve children in sports activities or Organization
Children will learn how to cooperate with others and learn how to understand the attitude of the friends who differ with him. If possible, take them camping, to the mountain, forest, or beach to see sunrise and sunset. It is also closely related to improving the spiritual intelligence of children. Mosques, churches, temples, temple, you can use for this.
* Praise and motivasilah children
When a child gets a bad value, give the motivation that he could still achieve better value tomorrow or the next test. You also do not get mad when he got a bad grade. Try to think of what went wrong, the child may be under stress or illness.
Praise, lest too much to succeed in achieving. Children must learn that he has advantages and disadvantages. So, it was unlikely he could be good in all lessons. Children are perfectionists tend to be depressed than other children. Also tell them not to fear making mistakes. Because experience is also a valuable lesson to cope with life.
* "Food" provisions against stress
Expand the menu of vegetables and fruit in your children. If necessary, always supply them with essential vitamins and minerals for the body. Especially vitamin C is effective to dissipate stress and vitamin B complex to improve the workings of the brain.
When children feel tired, sleepy, tired, or bored will cause breath more slowly. At such times he could not think clearly. When you breath more slowly, the lungs are not able to provide the oxygen the body needs. Also unable to efficiently remove carbon dioxide. Finally, increased levels of carbon dioxide in the blood.
When an excess of carbon dioxide, the signal will be sent to the brain. The brain will tell the lungs to take a long, deep breath, that is evaporating. Oxygen inhalation and karbond ioksida issued as much as possible. Provide a learning atmosphere (window, fans, etc..) That support a good circulation of oxygen.
Also, familiarize children to drink plenty of water. Respondents who studied at Bristol University in England was able to show 10% better performance in the field of numerical after drinking a glass of cold water.
* Effective teaching methods
Instead, teach your beloved sons and daughters to learn an effective method since childhood. Can learn in a short time but is able to absorb the lessons better. Now many courses that offer an effective method of learning.
This learning method is adapted from abroad. Usually, the child will be taught how to memorize more easily, bringing ca faster, mind maps, and creativity. As a parent, you must choose a course where the curriculum is best suited for children. This course requires substantial costs.
One important thing, give them a sincere affection. Compassion is also a powerful medicine to help children deal with depression study. As said by Lysher, "I thought, my main desire is that so my parents do not work, and they were at home with me! We can have fun, go out together!"
Tragic is not it? From now on, immediately save your child with caresses of affection!
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